Ever experienced that fiery craving to tell him that you love him? Are you afraid that he might not share the same amount of love that you do? When to tell him that you love him, after what period of time? Should she follow her heart and tell him as once that she has those feelings? Intrigued by the answers to these questions? Just keep reading and you’ll find the answers

With some time ago, I was discussing about the notion of dating, from the point of view of a man, meaning letting the relationships evolve in a rhythm that a man is happy with. If you just recently met, and he is still trying to figure you out, it is not the best time to discuss the number of children you want to have. If it is merely your second rendezvous, don’t even start to talk about your ideal wedding.

Women tend to have feelings for her partner, a lot sooner than men do, particularly if you are convinced that he is the one for you. It can turn into an agony holding back your feelings when you are sure that he is the perfect match. Nevertheless, with a capital N, it is wise for the woman’s sake to search for the next indications prior to say “I love you”

These are obvious indications that a man is in love with you or he is on the verge of being in love. If you can identify these signs, you may proceed with your desire…

Indication no. 1: There is more emotional connection between the both of you, than physical connection. In case sex is like 70% of the time spent together, the time for the “confession” has not arrived yet. Prior for a man to be in love with a woman, he need to emotionally connected with her. The fact that the two of you talk a lot, share with each other your passions and hobbies, frequent phone calls and romantic rendezvous is a sign of a close bond between you. If he is having these kinds of activities with you, it might be a sign that he is in love with you.

Indication no. 2: You know his mother over the telephone discussions you had with her. It is not a general rule, but a large number of men have a close relationship with their mothers. In case they feel that have met the right girl, it will not take long and they will tell it to their mothers. So, it is a good sign if you already had a conversion with his mother over the telephone.

Indication no. 3: You personally know his good friends. As all men like to brag about their latest love affair, and to present them the lovely and gorgeous woman he is dating. If he likes to brag with you in front of his friends, he is really appreciating you, and thinks that you are the right woman for him. This also indicates that you could go ahead and tell him that you love him.

Many teenagers nowadays are falling prey to the “safe sex” slogan. Some young people labor under the myth that contraceptives prevent all the problems associated with sexual activity. The push for contraceptives in the media teaches the youth how-to-do-it-without-getting-caught lessons, thus sending the wrong message – “It’s okay to do ‘it’ as long as you are protected.”

Think about this: There are no contraceptives against getting hurt. Here are the 5 reasons why teens should not fall prey to contraceptives:

• Getting pregnant and catching diseases are not the only ways that sex can hurt you. – Since it is proven that contraceptives fail more often than you can imagine, then there is no such thing as completely “safe sex.” Even if you are lucky, premarital sex can leave emotional scars that you will feel for the rest of your life.
• You may have thought it was love, but it was really just sex. – Again, psychologists say that when you are having sex with someone, it is hard to tell what you love – the person or sex. So it is easy to wind up in a relationship, or even a marriage, with someone who is wrong for you. Waiting to have sex lets you find out if it is really someone you can love.
• How many teens that had sex still have each other? – You might argue, “What’s wrong with having sex with someone you love so much?” Well, according to psychologists, studies show that most teenage relationships do not last. Just because their bodies were ready for sex does not mean that their minds and hearts were.
• After you have given yourself to someone, breaking up hurts twice as bad. – When you trust someone completely and then that person walks away, you will feel used in way you never have before. After all, you can have sexual activity the rest of your life, but you can only give away your virginity once.
• Having sex is no guarantee you will stay together – Lots of teenagers give in and have sex to “keep” someone. And then that person leaves anyway. If you have to have sex to keep someone you love, is that person really worth keeping?

So, before you buy that “safe sex” thing, think about finding out that the pill did not work, getting pregnant, having to quit school, saying goodbye to your dreams, or marrying the wrong person. Then listen to thousands of hurting teenagers who will tell you it would have been a whole lot easier if they had just decided to wait.

A multitude of recent scientific studies clearly indicate many differences between men’s and women’s brains as well as in the way they use them. While these studies do show differences, it is still too soon for scientists to know exactly what these differences mean.

In general, however, it can be said that women tend to use both sides of their brains simultaneously, while men use one side or the other. This means that a man tends to use either his left brain language skills or his right brain spatial problem-solving skills, while a woman uses both at the same time.

Studies have revealed that some women have much more corpus callosum, or connective tissue, between the two hemispheres of the brain, which would account for a woman’s tendency to use both sides of the brain simultaneously. While some men may have more corpus callosum than some women, these men still use only one side of the brain at he same time, while the women use both. The impact of this difference is staggering.

While a woman may be quicker to speak out about her feelings, a man will tend to more quickly act to solve a problem. While she will want to explore a problem more fully through talking, a man will be restless to do something about it. While neither approach is necessarily better, the best approach is when you work together.

With an awareness of how men and women are different, you are freed from the tendency to try to change your partners at those times when you are not getting what you want. With a greater level of acceptance and understanding, not only does love flourish, but you can also much more wisely and effectively apply new skills for getting what you want.

Trying to ignore differences, however, only creates more confusion and frustration between the sexes. The generalizations you make about men and women are certainly not true for everyone at all times, but they are true for a lot of people. When they do not apply to your situation or experience, just set them aside like an outfit that others may buy but that you don’t. What is most important is that when the differences do show up, you will have positive and useful relationship skills for coping with them.

Understanding the broad categories of differences helps you to accept them in a noncritical way, and then assists you in working with them instead of against them. These differences begin to show up even more when couples begin to have intimate relationships; in some cases, they begin to show up still more when the couple has children.

When a woman is upset, her first tendency is to talk about it, then as she continues to talk, her cognitive abilities set in and she can think about what she is saying and feeling and thus sort it out. She starts out in the feeling part of the brain, then she travels to the communication part and from there she goes to the thinking portion. This is her most natural route because this is the order in which her skills developed. Gradually, she develops the ability to feel, talk and think at the same time.

For a man, his process of dealing with feelings is different because his skills developed in another order. First, his feeling center develops, next his action center and then his thinking. When he is upset, his first tendency is to do something about it. Action leads him to clearer thinking. Gradually, he develops the ability to feel, act and think at the same time.

There are hundreds of occasions when your best friend asks for your honest opinion. She’ll want to know whether you like her new hairstyle, or whether you think she’s put on weight. Most of the time, you can easily gauge exactly how honest she wants you to be. She probably already knows that the red highlights were a mistake, and that she’d look better if she lost a few pounds.

But what if she hasn’t asked for advice? Will she really thank you for saying that she has no dress sense just before she goes to an important interview? And what would her reaction be if you pointed out that she’s drinking too much, her partner’s been unfaithful or that you’re sick of her moaning?

Before you say what you really think, these are the questions you should ask yourself:

• Are you sure about your motives? – Maybe your friend has always been one who gives advice and you can’t resist turning the tables? Have you discovered something secret that’s made you feel wonderful?
• Is it any of your business? – Consider the kind of relationship you have. You may be good friends, but are there no-go areas? Think carefully before you break unwritten rules. For example, if you both know that the one thing you don’t do is criticize the way you run your homes, then steer clear of the subject. But just because she’s always revealed the most intimate details of her sex life, doesn’t necessarily mean she’ll take kindly to unasked-for-advice.
• Will she give you a fair hearing? – There’s no point in a heart-to-heart if she’s so upset by a situation she’ll take everything the wrong way. Maybe it would be wiser to choose a moment when you sense she’s more receptive.
• Are you sure of your facts? – Perhaps the women you saw your friend’s husband kissing on the cheek is his sister or cousin. And double-check any gossip from so-called concerned mutual friends.
• Is this just a difference of opinion? – Think about what you’ll really achieve by speaking out. Will your friend’s life improve; will she be happier? Does she really need to take your comments about, say, her drinking, on board? What you think is too much alcohol may seem very little to her.
• What’s the likely outcome? – You should have a good idea how she’ll react. If you know she’ll ignore your advice, why risk your friendship? For instance, if you know for certain she won’t end an affair; maybe it’s better to offer unconditional support.
• Are you prepared for the worst? – You may feel you couldn’t live with your conscience if you don’t speak out. But you still need to consider how you’ll both feel if your honesty ends up ruining the relationship. Ask yourself whether principles are worth more than the friendship.

The words hung in his mind all day: “We never make love anymore.” He had heard that it happened to other couples, but he had never thought it would happen to them.

He spent the afternoon almost in a panic, wondering what to do about it. Was this the way they were going to spend the rest of their lives – too busy to connect and too embarrassed to talk about it? Were they just too far away from the tender part of their loving to ever need each other the way they used to? At this rate they were going to end up like their parents – polite and bored and withholding. Is that what he wanted?

“No. I don’t think so,” he thought. “Love has to start somewhere. Why not with me?”

He finished shaving and looked at himself in the mirror. It had been a while since he had shaved before going to bed. He buttoned the silk pajamas he had purchased on his lunch hour. His heart was actually pounding. Was he excited or nervous? He was not sure, but he sure as hell was not going to let it stop him.

As he entered the bedroom he stood in the doorway to look at her. She sat with pillows propped behind her, focusing on her laptop computer, which sat on the breakfast tray in front of her. Funny. He had never noticed how adorable she was in those half glasses. And the T-shirt. He stood in the doorway and gazed at her, unsure what to do next. Should he interrupt? Would she laugh at his romantic overtures? Should he turn back now before she noticed him in those silly pajamas?

She glanced up briefly, and then did a double take. “Too late,” he thought and froze; he felt vulnerable to the core.

She took off her glasses and looked at him quizzically. He could not think of anything glib to say as he crossed the room toward her, so he just said, “Hi, honey. Watcha doing?”

Much to his relief, she patted the bed beside her and replied, “Nothing much. Come sit down.”

He sat. Neither of them knew what to say next, so he took the plunge and tried to say what was in his heart.

“So…I was thinking…about what you said. And how we are…and…I…ah…” The words seemed to stick in his throat. “Well…I would really like to try it.”

She was not quite sure what he was talking about, or else she could not believe her ears. “It?”

“Yeah…you know. I’d really like us to…you know…be like we were. I mean…”

He stopped and looked at her in a kind of anguish. He hoped against hope that she would help him out as she always did.

And she did.

“Did you shave?” she asked shyly. He nodded. “For me?” He nodded again.

Her face lit up like a Christmas tree. She looked unabashedly happy; their years together seemed to melt away in the light of that smile, and they were both young and tender again. She suddenly became self-conscious of her T-shirt.

He brushed a strand of hair away from her face. “I love you, you know. And I just want to…not get us lost…in the shuffle.”

And that night they looked into each other’s eyes as they made love. They noticed each other’s bodies again, and the richness and ripeness of their feelings for each other. They discovered that the bond of knowing each other so well had created a bridge of gratitude and appreciation that became the most profound kind of lovemaking.

You can “have sex” and you can “make love.” They are not necessarily the same thing. When you “make love,” you open yourself completely to your mate. As you let go and allow your body to follow its own instincts, stay in touch with your heart and your loving feeling for your partner.

There are many ways to do this:

• Think about how much you love your partner.
• Tell your partner that you love him or her.
• Adore your partner’s body as you make love to it.
• Hold each other and breathe together.
• Look lovingly into your partner’s eyes.

Make love and allow yourself completely to feel the love you have for your mate. Making love “from the heart” can create the deepest and most profound sex.