Your bedroom is the place where we throw away the cares and worries of a long day so we can relax, just be ourselves, and–if we share love with a significant other–pursue the pleasurable expressions of our love and affection.

But for some, the modern bedroom has evolved into an all-in-one room for watching the latest movies on the DVD, writing reports on the PC, or doing one’s regular morning workout on the treadmill. This should not be, say feng shui experts, who prescribe that the bedroom should serve no other purpose but be a place of rest and refuge from the busy, stress-filled world outside.

If anything, the bedroom should nurture the loving relationship between its residents, or help even a single person improve her ratings in the romance department. Are you ready for some “romance in the bedroom feng shui?”

1 In the bedroom, your artwork should depict happy, loving couples. Don’t hang pictures of choppy seas, desolate landscapes or sad looking, solitary figures on your bedroom walls. These can only encourage aloneness or more single blessedness.

2 Hang or place pairs of objects–two red candles (red and pink are good colors to have in the bedroom), a pair of dolls like Barbie and Ken, a bottle of champagne and two glasses, a small bowl filled with Hershey’s Kisses–in the relationship area of the room to encourage and nurture your intimate partnerships. (Your relationship area is the right-hand corner of the room as you are looking into the room from the doorway.)

3 Be sure to keep the relation- ship corner clean–no dirty laundry, no cobwebs, no dead flowers, no clutter! Instead, hang something here that will encourage the love energy in your life. How about a pair of those perfect symbols of wedded bliss: love birds? Or a red negligee? The birds need not be live so you don’t have to clean and feed them!

4 Avoid keeping your TV, computer, workspace and workout paraphernalia in the bedroom if you can. The energies you spend to enjoy these activities are in conflict with the restful, leisurely energy that should prevail in the bedroom. These will distract and detract from the energy flow of the room. If you can’t part with your gizmos, at least hide them behind a screen or tuck them into an entertainment cabinet and keep the lid closed when you’re ready to retire.

5 Mirrors are the aspirin of feng shui. They work wonders in many situations. Just be careful where you place them. In the bedroom, mirrors work magic as well. Hanging a round or oval mirror in your relationship area would be a good thing. But hanging a mirror where you can see yourself sleeping on the bed is a no-no. Mirrors on the ceiling are taboo!

All in all, the things to remember about fostering good relationships and keeping the vibes good in the bedroom are: Keep the atmosphere relaxed and sensuously pleasant. Use red or pink for accent. Play soothing music, light romantic candles, use soft lighting, soft colors and fabrics all over this room.

With the advancement in technology, you can now find a date for yourself easily just at a click. With the boom of new trends of finding an eligible single online, many websites are springing up and attracting people towards them.

With so many free dating websites available, one may get confused as to which one is the best suitable for them. Again for this confusion, the solution is available online itself. You can get reviews and even compare dating sites online.

Eharmony.com is an online portal serving with the motive of providing a date and matching people on the basis of their compatibility. Eharmony has been ranked as number one dating site and leads this industry followed by Mate1 and Matchmaker.

Eharmony has a very unique technology for matching dates. It is because of this technology that this website has received positive reviews from its members and has experienced a rapid growth in the developing field of online dating.

There are various other online portals that help you find the perfect date for yourself. All you need to do is to get yourself registered with them and create an attractive personal profile. There is no age bar to these portals. Even if you are senior citizen or simply a teen, you can get a perfect match for yourself.

But before getting yourself registered, it is better to have a good research about the online dating sites and also it is recommended to compare dating sites and read their reviews before getting started with them.

A Joker once said: “If you mispronounce mistress as mattress, you are not far off.”

So you want to have a mistress. Why not? It seems to be the trend — a sort of status symbol. However, you must: a) be crazy, b) be prepared to spend a lot of money and c) suffer its inevitable consequence.

Men are by nature, polygamous. Another joker said that men actually belong to the weakest sex because they become weak when attracted to the weaker sex.. Scientists, have yet to invent something which could replace sex as the most effective seducer, influencer, inspirer and destroyer of man. Kingdoms have collapsed, wars have been lost, legions have died, fortunes have gone down the drain and reputations have been destroyed, all because of the weaker sex. Even men of God have gone astray — tempted by the very thing which they have warned their congregation to avoid.

Mistresses could be any girl. She may be a sweet, innocent kid in her teens; a wily, clever and cunning 21-year-old; a scheming, fox-like 28-year-old who is sliding downhill or a 30-ish or 40-ish battle-tested veteran who twists men around her finger. Whatever category they belong to, they have two things in common — they are expensive and they spell TROUBLE. A local writer once quipped: “If you want to prove that mistresses are dynamite, just drop one.”

So, you still want to have a mistress. This means that you are now crazy. Just relax and read these gems of wisdom below:

1. If you get involved with a young chick (it is presumed that you are at least twice her age which makes you a dirty old man) accept the bitter fact that she does it for love — of money. Remember, only your wife can love that ugly face of yours. Accent the fact that you area sucker. Since you are already crazy, do not complicate it further by being stupid.

2. Young girls maintained by dirty old men jokingly say, “Soak them while the soaking is good.” They might croak anytime. Once Daddy is gone, there will be no more sugar; a chick was overheard to say.

3. Watch out for suspicious signs. In many cases, they have “reserve” boyfriends of their own age, lurking around — waiting for your back to turn. Imagine, being fried in your own lard!

4. Avoid the cosmopolitan, sophisticated, swinging, extrovert type unless you are prepared to dish out a lot of cash. This type can also get you easily noticed and ex.; posed to your friends and friends of your wife. Remember that wives now have some sort of secret society — they tell on each other’s husbands!

5. If you are an employer or executive, do not be stupid to get involved with your secretary or office employee. You must be the supreme optimist if you think you can still “dictate” to her after you get involved. The office is a gossip factory and you would be lucky to keep it a secret for a week. Besides, that particular employee will develop “superior” air and would even commit anomalies.

6. Never get involved with a girl who belongs to a big family. She may be the type who would say yes to you because she wants to help her family. The whole clan is liable to move in on her the moment you rent an apartment. You only want to buy a cow — not the whole ranch!

7. Before embarking on the crazy adventure, have yourself checked first if you are still potent. If you are, have yourself vasectomized but do not tell your mistress about it. Give her the impression that you are still potent. If she gets pregnant later you have been a victim of item 3, but if you would still admit to being the father, you will be given the “WORLD’S OUTSTANDING SUCKER” award.

8. Above all, think about what it will do to your wife and family. A few years ago, the wife of a well-known industrialist died of cerebral attack because of the philandering of her husband. He got involved and committed with a woman who was over-ambitious — she wanted to oust the wife from her Number One position! The children hated the father as a consequence and their business suffered a series of setbacks, all because of a mistress.

He hurt me and I hate him!” Such an empathic utterance when your partner has done you wrong.

When a person close to you did something that has hurt your feelings, too often you find yourselves unable to trust him again, especially in the case of man-woman relationships. Somehow, we feel betrayed and although the other person has been repentant and seeking for your forgiveness, you often find it hard to forgive because you feel that you could never trust him again.

Too often, the years of your togetherness has been forgotten. You forget the good times that you shared, you forget the many sacrifices the person has done for you, even the good deeds he has done in your favor. The warmth, even the love, magically seemed to fade into oblivion.

Release Yourself from the Bondage of Negative Emotions

When a significant other hurt you— he lied to you, two-timed you, became insensitive to your feelings and needs — you often harbor negative feelings towards him.

When we trusted a person and he betrayed that trust, you find it hard to get over the hurt and for a long time wallowed in negative emotions.

But harboring hate for a long time would eventually take its toll on you. It could warp your rational thought. And long-term hatred wouldn’t be good for your emotional well-being as a whole. Why? Because that hate could manifest itself into actions that would eventually harm not only the person who is the object of the emotion but yourselves as a whole.

Even scientific studies state that negative emotions often resulted to diseases. Why? Because when you hate, you use a lot of our energies. You wallow in depression and your outlook becomes dim.

For your own sake, learn to forgive him. May he be repentant or not. Because nursing the “negative emotions” for too long would not only debilitate your growth as loving individuals, it would also affect your other relationships. You would find it hard to trust other people again and eventually would rob yourselves of the chance to start again or rebuild your relationships.

When you forgive those persons who did you wrong, you are in effect also accepting your own humanity. You, in your own judgmental ways are imperfect.

Forgiving and Forgetting

When you try to forgive a person, forgive him without any encumbrances. Meaning, you have to bury the sin committed to you and the hate you feel towards the other person.

Start anew. Do not let past mistakes be brought up in your relationship. And most of all do not use your forgiveness as leverage against the other person.

For example, your boyfriend has two-timed you. You never found out about it but he comes clean after he broke up with the other girl. His admission has hurt you but you forgive him anyway because you feel you love the guy. But your relationship has never been the same to you at least. You are always wary when he spends too much time in the office or when he says he is going out with his men-friends. Worse, when you argue about something, you always brought up his past transgression, making him feel guilty all over again.

A person cannot always pay for his past crimes to you. It could wear him out and would strain your relationship.

In the end, because you are unable to forget the whole thing, the relationship will crumble.

That is why we need to forgive and forget. We have to start again. Rebuild and recreate the relationship to make it more lasting.

Love as the Source of Forgiveness

You cannot truly forgive a person because you haven’t loved — the pure and unadulterated kind —that is.

It is only because you love wholly that you can forgive wholly. If you cannot forgive a mistake or sin against you, then you don’t love. Because in loving someone, you need essentially to accept the other person — all of him.

When you love someone, you just don’t love the good things about him but everything about him —his weaknesses and faults notwithstanding.

Just bear in mind that the persistent suitor is like a persistent peddler because he has something to sell — himself. If you want to buy, then there is no problem. But if you don’t want to buy, sending him away could be trying.

1. Limit the phone calls. When he, calls, don’t encourage him to talk long. Tell him that you are too busy to indulge in idle talk. If he wants to say something which may be important to him, listen politely but do not ask him for details. That way he knows that you are only trying to be polite.

Use monosyllabic answers when he starts talking. And if he has nothing else to say that is quite interesting to you tell him that you want to do something else. Then say your goodbye and hang up.

2. Never be left alone with hint. When he comes to visit you at home, be sure that your parents are there. Make your parents’ favorite reading matters available and within arms’ reach. That way they shall be encouraged to stay with you when your suitor comes.

Entertain your parents first. If they do not feel like reading, turn on the TV set and watch their favorite program with them. Or else, talk with them and tell them all about your day and ask them all about theirs. By this you will surely make your suitor feel taken for granted that he will ask for an excuse to leave. Graciously show him the way out.

3. Projection of the strict image. Ask your father beforehand to ask him questions the way an investigator or detective does. Clue your father what to ask: educational attainment, family background, economic status, link to high society, and that sort of thing.

That way he gets the impression that your father is very strict and is concerned deeply with your welfare. Tell your father to project a “you’re-not-one-of-us-attitude”.

4. Never go out alone with him. If in case you go out dating with this suitor, never go out alone. This guy who seems angelic at first could be a wolf in sheep’s clothing.

5. Show him you’re “biased.” During your dates or regular strolls with friends, point out to him things you’d like to acquire, telling him: “buy us this” or “buy us that.” Whether he buys them for you and your friends or not, it does not really matter. Enough that you’ve shown him you are “biased.”

6. Make him feel left out. Whenever you attend parties with this persistent suitor, make him feel left out. Go to your girl friends and chat with them for hours. When you glance at his – direction and you notice him frowning, go to him and tell him that you are with your friends. Ask him to get drinks for you. When he does, try very hard not to return to your seat. That way he will have to finish the drinks all by himself. When the host sees him do so, it could be quite humiliating for him.

7. Attend to your male friends. When you see your male friends at the party, see to it that you can keep a long conversation. When your persistent suitor sees you having a grand time with them perhaps he will get the message.

In attending to the other guys, however, try not to be a bore. You might monopolize the conversation and it is very embarrassing for you if they start to leave you one by one. Just see to it that you can participate in their conversation so that your suitor will see you enjoying their company.

8. The ultimate way: behave like a tomboy. If after such an incident at the party, he still will come and visit you, put on a boyish act. Behave like a tomboy.

If you can, ask a girl friend to be your date and go out with regularity. When your suitor sees you dating a girl, it will definitely turn him off.

If you’re one of these guys who think that being a second fiddle to their partners is like a curse that would forever impair their existence, better think again. There’s more to life than proving you’re always better than your woman. The truth is, in many instances, the exciting part of living in this world comes when you allow yourself to be humbled.

She earns more than you. The imbalance of domestic economics often leads to serious communication mishaps. In some instances, it puts a heavy strain to the relationship that it is forced to eventually break down. Since the responsibility of keeping a livelihood always falls on the lap of men, society dictates that they should never let up in carrying the financial burden of their respective families. Because the moment they slow down and get overtaken by their partners salary-wise, they become a fair game for ridicule. People will mock you as a slouch. They will brand you as a useless piece of manlike creation.

Yet, such scenario in these modern days is not supernatural in nature. More opportunities are being accorded to women in the workplace. In fact, because of their flexibility in handling various tasks, women even earn influential positions and juicy paychecks. Having a wife or a girlfriend who brings home more dough, therefore, shouldn’t be a dilemma to you. Forget about insecurity and be proud of her accomplishment. If you know how to share wealth equally, her success should also be your success. If you think of realizing your future goals expeditiously, every little thing that she can chip in will matter. Who bankrolls more shouldn’t be a point to dispute with as long as you know who calls the shots during critical situations.

So what if she earns six to seven figures per month while you settle for a paltry salary. So what if you get relegated to the backseat as she hogs the spotlight. What counts most is that you’re both doing your part in having decent jobs and that you mutually support each other.

Think of J. Lo, who commands a whopping $9 million per film. She never considered her stature and her money as hindrances in marrying former husband Chriss Judd, a choreographer. Chris, on his part, didn’t allow his partner’s larger-than-life image to intimidate her. Unfortunately, for whatever reason, they didn’t last. Another relationship that has gone through the odds is that of Julia Roberts and Danny Moder. The actress receives $20 million per flick while her cameraman husband is way beyond her income bracket. Income though is inconsequential to both of them. Right now, they’re living contentedly as they expect the coming of their first-born.

She is more intellectually gifted than you. She loves to read books; you love to play sports. She’s a bit nerdy; you’re learning towards the athletic side. She engages in intellectual pursuits; you go for the more physically demanding activities. Yours is a mismatched way of doing things. More likely than not, you’ll be getting the flak for not measuring up to her mental standard. The toughest part here is asserting your presence. After all, you need intelligence to get to where you want to be professionally. If your woman is brainier, chances are she’ll most likely go farther in her career. But do not be dismayed. For you can prove your value without having to compete or go evenhanded with her brilliance. You can be successful in doing the thing that you do best. Start by believing in yourself. If you’re a basketball player, for example, you can try your hand in gaining a stint in the play-for-pay league. Using your brawn and athleticism, you can attain the same degree of success as your corporate achieving partner.

A happy bedtime is the best way to put that honeymoon magic back into your marriage. Many women don’t realize that their bedtime habits can make their husbands lose interest in them.

These are “never do at bedtime” tips for wives who want to keep the magic in their marriage:

1. Get into bed with him: Often the woman who doesn’t have to get up early in the morning will stay up and watch the late news or the late movies. Husbands may see this as an excuse not to have sex.

The solution to the problem is get into bed, anyhow. You can have some time together cuddling and touching. Then you can get up again and do what you wish after your husband falls asleep.

2. Don’t wear moisturizers and mud pack or tweeze your eyebrows and manicure your nails in front of him: No man wants to make love to a greasy face or wants to wait until his partner’s nails are dry.

3. Don’t use the bedroom as an arena to air your complaints:

Don’t use bedtime to voice the things that are bothering you all day. Do use it to talk about the things that draw you closer to each other.

4. Don’t read in bed: Many a man feels neglected by a wife who can’t resist finishing her novel, no matter how many hours she reads in bed. Don’t do it.

5. Don’t talk over the phone when you’re in bed together: Take care of your telephone obligations on your own time, not on your time with your man.

6. Stop buying him pajamas that he refuses to wear: Let him buy his own or not wear them if he does not want to. He will not catch cold.

7. Do not take up three quarters of the bed or most of the bedcovers: Buy a bigger bed or sleep with two blankets.

8. Let him touch you, even if your hair is wet: Try washing it a little earlier. If he doesn’t mind being a little wet, why should you?

9. Don’t keep dirty tissue paper under the pillow: Keep a little plastic pail or a small plastic bag tucked in on your side under the bed for whatever you have to discard during the evening.

10. Don’t wear night clothes that he hates: If your husband doesn’t like you wearing pajamas, get some pretty nighties.

11. Use bed linens that he likes: Many women decorate their bedrooms without consulting their husbands. Discuss your bedroom decor with your man.

12. Never get into bed without being clean: If you like to shower in the morning, make sure that you are still smelling fresh and clean when you go to bed.

13. Don’t tell him to take the garbage out or check the front door just as he is getting into bed: Remind him to do the chores before he gets into bed–or do them yourself.

14. Don’t eat in bed or leave crumbs around: Have your late snack before coming to bed or cut it out.

15. Stop slapping your double chin before switching the light off: The less of your beauty routines you show your husband, the better.

16. Don’t ask him to remember when you were both younger: Wives often pick bedtime to say, `Remember when. This is a bad idea.

17. Don’t comment on how handsome the newscaster on your television set or the leading man in the movie that you are both watching is: Now is the time to concentrate on how terrific your husband is.

18. Be attentive: Give your husband your full attention.

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Women, by nature, love children. They love to hold and cuddle kids, and say soothing words for them. There is no question that women, especially mothers, give children due love and protection. It is their inherent biological and physiological role. But how about men? There had been cases of guys having strong and intense dislike against children. Eventually, these guys will not make good husbands and will only break your heart.

Take the case of Diana, an aspiring gymnast. She fell in love with a fellow gymnast, and in the course of their relationship, she noticed her guy showed bias against babies and kids. Warning signs flared deep in her but she ignored these and married him anyway. She thought she was just mistaken. When she told him months later that she was pregnant, she never expected violent reaction form her husband. But he did. He urged her to get an abortion. Diana refused and, as a result, he abandoned her. This incident could have been avoided in the first place if Diana had not fallen in love with a man who abhors kids.

Not all men love children. How sure are you that your mate loves kids? Simple. Just keep watch if he exhibits the following telltale signs:

• He talks to kids with care and utmost respect.
• He enjoys their company.
• When both of you go shopping, he would point out baby items and infant clothing and wish he could buy these for your future baby.
• He exhibits high regard and enthusiasm for children.
• When occasion permits, he willingly reads bedtime stories to your younger siblings.
• He rough plays with them around the house.
• He makes time to wipe away the tears from a child’s eyes.
• He treats them to a backyard picnic.
• He joins cloud gazing with them.
• When he visits you, he often brings pizzas, candies and other kiddie snacks.
• He takes the time to ask them how their day at school was.
• He helps them with their school projects and assignments.
• He brings them to libraries, museums, and theme parks.
• He teaches them proper manners and sets good examples for them.
• He is firm yet gentle with a child’s temper tantrums and idiosyncrasies.
• When time permits, he involves them in his activities.
• He recognizes a child’s inherent talent and nurtures them to bring out the best in a child.
• He enjoys mimicking a child’s talk.
• He shows genuine appreciation for them.

On the other hand, here are the top 5 signs that your mate dislikes children:

• When he brings you to his own family, you will notice that his small brothers and sisters cower in a corner and look at him with disgust.
• He angrily shouts at them for the slightest infraction.
• He avoids any talk or discussion about babies or children.
• He grits his teeth in annoyance every time a child approaches him for small favors.
• He shows cold and total disregard for a child’s feelings.

With the right plan and some imagination it is not hard to turn a simple home date with your partner into something special and out of the ordinary. Below are a few tips for boosting up a home date.

Have a Karaoke Night

Put on some costumes and perform some songs, together or alone? Although you are not a real artist, but you will rapidly find out how wonderful it is to sing for your love one. You might sing alone, one after the other or together and have some drinks and snacks on the table to feel like in a chic Karaoke bar. Here are the main ingredients for a perfect night: performing hot duets with your partner, and ensuring that the other is having fun attending to your performance.

Camping in your own yard or Fireplace Staring

Like the adventures, but seldom find the time to go for camping in the mountains? Never mind, make a campsite out of your garden. Get all that you need and make hotdogs as you are playing cards by the fire. Even it is chilly outside, you and your partner could stay embraced by a comfortable and warmly fire. The recommended drink in this particular situation is hot chocolate.

In case you are short on a fireplace, you might light a couple of aromatic candles. Feed each other with some delicate cheese, various fruits, have a fine wine and entertain yourselves in the pleasant atmosphere of your barely illuminated living room.

Offer each other a makeover

Delight each other by spreading exfoliating cream and other cosmetic lotions on your backs. You might even cut a few avocados and place the slices on your faces. Following a pleasant bath, it might be the perfect time for a delightful massage. The date is getting more interesting when one of you feel like going to the next level. A sensual massage following a longer period of spoiling and coddling each other is more than enjoyable and most welcomed.

Unusual Dancing

In case both of you are equally brave enough, you can have a strip tease show in your home. For start, one of you is the stripper and the other one is the spectator; later on you swap places. This dating game of playing various roles is one of the women favorite as they love the jazz-like music and to reveal their bodies. Men with creativity and a good sense of humor are also doing great in this game. It is up to you how you play this exciting game.